June 17, 2019 | Tracey de Blank, IFA Staff
Rejection. The word may bring back memories of not fitting in as a child, of thinking of yourself in a distorted way, or of a painful break up or divorce. Most people have dealt with rejection in some form in their lives. Even Christians, who understand that Christ died for them on the cross to take rejection and shame (Heb 12:2), struggle with feeling unacceptable.
But there is hope. We do not have to partner with rejection. We can be free, if we understand the stronghold and how to break it.
Three different types of rejection can manifest in our lives – roots of rejection, fear of rejection, and self-rejection.
Roots of rejection are generational in nature and can continue down our family line until the curse is identified and broken. Christ paid the price for our freedom, but we need to appropriate that freedom by identifying and renouncing curses and lies so that the enemy has no legal ground to continue in that area of our lives, and by replacing those curses and lies with the truth of the Word of God. Some of the unholy fruit from a root of rejection can be guilt, shame, self-condemnation, and unbelief. If you struggle with any of these, renounce each one in the name of Jesus, and declare these words of truth: All those the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never drive away. (Jn 6:37)
A fear of rejection, or a fear of man, comes from feeling like you never measure up and need to continually strive to please others. You may feel worthless, hopeless, and lonely. Only Christ can give us true worth, hope, and belonging. Again, renounce the unholy fruit in Jesus’ name. Putting Scripture on index cards, post-it notes, or phone notifications and declaring the opposite of each lie helps to get the truth from our mind into our heart. Instead of continually feeling hopeless, write down Romans 15:13 and declare it, aloud, until it replaces the lie with this truth: May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
Self-rejection is fueled by media, especially social media, and a standard which is unrealistic and very harmful. Eating disorders, self-harm, and, in extreme cases, suicide can be the fruit of this stronghold. Ask the Lord to show you how He sees you. A deep understanding the Father’s love for you will change the way you see yourself. Truly knowing that He never changes will give you the security to know you are accepted by Him. See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! (1 Jn 3:1)
A wonderful book on the subject of rejection is God’s Remedy for Rejection by Derek Prince. In the book, Prince shows how rejection is at the root of many problems that we are facing as a society today.
By uncovering the lies that you believe about yourself and replacing them with God’s truth, you can live confidently knowing that you are accepted by our Father in heaven, and that He will never reject you.